Sino nga bang tao ang hindi pa naranasang mangarap nang gising? Napakasarap sa pakiramdam na mabuo sa imahinasyon ang iyong mga pangarap sa buhay. Yung buhay na ginagawa mo ang dream job mo, meron kang malaking bahay, kayang bilhin lahat ng bagay na gugustuhin mo, at jowa mo pa ang crush mo. Ang saya mag-imagine diba?
Paano pa kaya kung natupad mo na ang mga ito sa tunay na buhay? Mangarap ka nang napakataas, ngunit ‘wag kalimutan na hindi lahat yan matutupad kung hihilata ka lang dyan sa kama habang nakangiti sa kawalan na parang tanga!
As Dr. Marshall Goldsmith said, who is a #1 Executive Coach, when the time comes that you are already old and reminiscing the life you’ve lived, you should be able to say that you tried hard and you did your best. Yun naman kasi yung pinakamahalaga diba? That you did your best! If the life you have been imagining is really for you, no one can take it away from you. Unless, you’re not working to be the best version of yourself.
Therefore, be guided as we give you these pro tips you might want to emulate in knowing yourself and achieving your dreams.
1. The Choice Is Always Yours, Choose Yourself
Ano nga ba sa tingin mo ang mga strengths and weaknesses mo? Maaring alam mo na kung anong klaseng tao ang maging gusto mo, pero bakit wala kang ginagawa dyan?
Your life experiences probably made you act the way you’re acting towards things at this point of your life. However, that is the time where you should remind yourself that you have the choice on how to react to certain circumstances. If a person wronged you, try contemplating things first and think of how you would act in that particular situation.
Tandaan na huwag hayaang diktahan ng mga bagay bagay at tao sa paligid mo ang magagandang ugali na alam mong meron ka.
2. What Are the Old Habits You Want to Preserve?
Becoming a better person does not mean you have to forget everything about you in the past. Your past is what makes you ‘you’, whether it be good or bad. However, you should learn from your mistakes. Forgiving yourself when you have done a mistake is super okay, but you should know when enough is already enough!
Learn to let go of the things that do not make you feel good, and be courageous enough to accept new things. Find the right balance of preserving and creating the life you want to have. Know your boundaries. Di mo ikakaganda ‘yang mga toxic sa buhay, besh.
3. Identify Yourself and Your Goals
Bago mo malaman kung anong gusto mo talaga sa buhay, kailangang malaman mo muna kung sino ka ba talaga. Sino ka nga ba? Ano ba yung mga bagay na kaya mong gawin at mga bagay na alam mong kahit gaano mo katagal pag-aralan eh wala na talaga?
Pag nasagot mo na ‘yang mga tanong na yan, maari mo nang gawan ng blueprint ‘yang buhay mo. Always think of your end goal and then find the motivation and inspiration that will keep you going. Remember that things will not be handed to you effortlessly, so work hard!
4. Discipline Yourself!
Dr. Goldsmith suggested that you list all the easy everyday questions you have in mind but tend to be overlooked most of the time such as “Sapat na ba ‘yung nainom ‘kong tubig ngayon?” Questions which can be immediately answered by yes or no.
Napatunayan na ang pagsusuri sa sarili na ‘to ay magiging parte na ng iyong pang araw-araw na buhay pagkatapos lamang ng 2 linggo. Sa pamamagitan nito, nako-kondisyon mo ang iyong sarili na kailangan magawa mo yung mga bagay nasa listahan mo. And as the time goes by, di mo namamalayan na awtomatiko mo nang na a-assess yung sarili mo kung nagawa mo na ba ang mga bagay na kailangan nililinang mo araw araw nang hindi na tinitignan ang iyong listahan.
5. Pride and Ego Will Not Do You Good
If you tend to disagree with all the learning that you should be acquiring in your everyday experiences, man, that is your pride and ego working against you!
You will be stagnant if you can’t admit to yourself that you need guidance and improvement in some things. You should always remind yourself that you are not perfect and that you are not good at everything! So, a little help and teaching from other people will not make you less of a person. Try to listen and reflect to things that people around you are trying to say. Life is not always about you, so be compassionate and a little sensitive sometimes. Try to work on that pride or else you will not be the person you have dreamed of since you were just a tiny little human.
6. Guarantee Your Happiness
Take this from people who are experiencing a luxurious life, don’t rely your happiness to material things. Yes, these expensive and fancy things could be part of your definition of success, but happiness really lies within you: peace of mind, loved ones, and being appreciated.
Life will always be a debate about the glass being half full or half empty. May you be the person who perceives it as half full. Oo, pangarapin mo lahat ng magagandang bagay sa mundo, pero matutong sabihin minsan na, “Masaya ako kahit na ganto…” at hindi ang linyang, “Sasaya lang ako kapag…” Minsan may mga bagay na kailangan maramdaman nating kuntento na tayo. Sabi nga ng mga lolo’t lola, “Huwag mong yakapin ang mga bagay na hindi mo kayang yakapin.”
7. Go out of Your Comfort Zone!
You may now stop imagining those goals and start acting upon them. Just try! Achieve those dreams one step at a time.
Pwede namang magpahinga, pero pakatandaan mo yung end goal mong kailangan mong makamtan. Totoo yung pag gusto mo ng sumuko sa mga pangarap mo, alalahanin mo yung pinaka dahilan kung bakit ka nga ba nagsimula.
Nevertheless, do not be too hard on yourself if you still don’t know what you want to become and do in life. We have our own timeline, and yours will come just on the perfect time you need it. Always keep trying your best and when your star is ready to shine, you will definitely reap what you sow.